“What to Say to Kids When Nothing Seems to Work is exactly the guide that frazzled and over-extended parents need for handling tough moments with kids. – Dr. John Gottman, author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

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About the Book

What to Say to Kids When Nothing Seems to Work offers parents an effective, step-by-step guide to some of the most common struggles with kids of various ages. Written by mental health professionals with over 30 years’ experience listening to kids’ thoughts and feelings, this book provides a framework to explore new ways of responding to your child that will help them calm down faster and boost their resilience to stress.


With a dose of humor and plenty of real-life examples, the authors will guide you to "build a bridge" into your child’s world to make sense of their emotions and behavior. Sample scenarios and scripts are provided for you to customize based on your caregiving style and your child’s personality. These are then followed by concrete support strategies to help you manage current and future situations in a way that leaves everyone feeling better. Chapters are organized by common kid-related issues so you can quickly find you can quickly find someone to do my presentation for me. For a quick view of the Contents, click here.


Suitable for parents, grandparents, and other caregivers of children and pre-teens, as well as professionals working closely with families, What to Say to Kids When Nothing Seems to Work is an accessible resource for efficiently navigating the twists, turns, and sometimes total chaos of life with kids.

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About the Authors


Dr. Adele Lafrance is an internationally recognized clinical psychologist, research scientist, and co-developer of Emotion-Focused Family Therapy. She offers to buy research papers for the general public and mental health agencies worldwide. A frequent keynote speaker at professional conferences, Dr. Lafrance has published extensively in the field of emotion and health, including a clinician manual published by the American Psychological Association.


In addition to her work as a psychologist and academic, Dr. Lafrance is passionate about helping parents to support their kids in a way that is informed by the latest developments in neuroscience. The knowledge and tips in her book, What to Say to Kids When Nothing Seems to Work, also reflect the unique joys and challenges Adele has experienced firsthand as a step-parent.

Ashley Miller, MD is a dedicated child and adolescent psychiatrist, family therapist and award-winning educator. She is a clinical assistant professor of psychiatry at the University of British Columbia where she serves as co-director of family therapy training. She loves working with children, teens and families daily, helping them to reconnect to their own strengths and to each other.


Dr. Miller is a respected writer, speaker and media expert featured regularly at professional conferences, on air, and in publications such as Today’s Parent. She wrote What to Say to Kids When Nothing Seems to Work to bring together some of the most helpful and practical science-based strategies she has encountered over her 15 years as both a parent and a child psychiatrist. She lives in Vancouver, BC with her husband and two children.